Joie de Vivre A Wretched Man’s Quest To Follow Jesus Christ

It is a breath of fresh air to find that there’s actually a blog out there that specifically addresses sex in Christian marriages and the issues surrounding this aspect of marriage that most Christians and churches are not too willing to approach.

Perhaps it’s due to the Victorian hangover we are still having (what a long hangover, huh?) regarding sex in general.

My big thanks goes out to Robert and Susan Irwin for first stumbling upon my 3-part series on Christian marriage, and linking to them from a post of his. Because without that I wouldn’t have discovered his blog.

The couple creates a friendly atmosphere, and takes a God and family-centric approach on “Love Marriage And Christian Sex“. There’s nothing salacious about the site, not even when there are links to sex toys for Christian married couples, sex skills for Christian husbands, Christian sex videos (either educational or informative, nothing of the pornographic sort) and even 100 sex games for Christian couples.

The reason I don’t find them salacious is because I share their view that sex within a Christian marriage is more than just for pro-creation, and that God intended married couples to experience the fullness and joys of a healthy sexual relationship.

What makes the blog stand out is the fact that the couple isn’t shy to write about, rant on and discuss many of the issues that Christian couples have always wanted to ask, but have no one to turn to in particular for advice.

Issues such as how some Christian wives are having problems getting their husbands to perform oral sex on them, sexual abuse, and even addiction to pornography are well-tackled with advice given well-backed up by references to Scripture. And, yes, in case you’re wondering, oral sex is perfectly alright since I do agree that a couple of verses in Song of Solomon do allude to that — Song of Solomon 2:3 (KJV) and Song of Solomon 4:16 (KJV).

Most of all, I like that the couple insists that good sex in a Christian marriage has to be a result of, first and foremost, good communication between husband and wife. Sexual intimacy isn’t just a satisfaction of the needs of the flesh, but an extension of great communication.

Great sex is a gift from God to all of us married Christians, and definitely not dirty or a sin within a marriage! It’s about time we all stop shying away from learning more and actually seeking help if we need it.

About the only part about sex that’s sinful is our tendency to take the Lord’s name in vain (Exodus 20:7, KJV) during sex, lol!

Photo by davebluedevil.